“But gain a good name by well doing my duty”

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My oldest daughter received the Sacrament of Confirmation last week.  She chose St. Therese of Lisieux as her Confirmation name so we got her a pink leather bound St. Therese Bible that has a quote by the saint and my daughter’s first and middle name (Rose) engraved on the front.  St. Therese said “When I die, I will send down a shower of roses from the heavens, I will spend my heaven by doing good on earth.”  My Grandmother introduced me to this saying when she advised that I should pray to The Little Flower, as she is affectionately referred to, and said that she has often received answers to her prayers accompanied by a rose from this saint’s intercession .

When I was pregnant with my oldest, my mother told me she knew I was going to have a girl because that morning she saw 1 pink rose blooming on her rose bush after all the other roses had died and the season was over.  I had already picked my girl name with Rose as the middle name since that is a family name on my husband’s side, so she took that late-blooming rose as a sign that surely she would have a granddaughter.

About ten years ago we had to travel out of state for the funeral of my cousin’s 12 year old daughter who passed away in an auto accident.  At the time, neither my cousin (Catholic) nor his wife (Christian, from I’m not sure what denomination) were practicing their faith.  I spent my time in the car on the way home praying the Rosary for their dear daughter and for them as well.  One of the things I requested was that they would find their way to practicing their faith again and that my cousin’s wife would convert to Catholicism so they could have a shared faith together along with their son.  I remember as I was praying that I smelled the overwhelming scent of fresh flowers.  So much so that I had to ask if anyone else in the car had brought some with them from the funeral.  The strong scent lasted about five minutes and then faded away.  It was then that I knew that my prayers had indeed been heard.  It was only a few years later that we received the news that my cousin’s wife had been received into the Church.

What I experienced was not a new phenomenon.  It’s actually pretty common.  Here’s a link to an interesting discussion of the topic by ordinary folks.    The Catholic Church calls it the odor of sanctity when the scent is associated with living or deceased saints.

I’m bringing all this up simply because I came across this lovely poem today that speaks of how doing our duty well will remain after we are gone like the scent of the rose remains after the flower has died.  It’s comforting to know  that our works can live on and “scent” the future of those touched by our faithfulness.  I think God has allowed us this occassional grace of these heavenly scents to remind us of the real beauty contained in all that is good even when it’s not immediately visible to us.

The Rose

How fair is the Rose!
what a beautiful flower!
The glory of April and May:
But the leaves are beginning to fade in an hour,
And they wither and die in a day.


Yet the Rose has one powerful virtue to boast,
Above all the flowers of the field!
When its leaves are all dead and fine colours are lost,
Still how sweet a perfume it will yield!


So frail is the youth and the beauty of man,
Though they bloom and look gay like the Rose;
But all our fond care to preserve them is vain,
Time kills them as fast as he goes.


Then I’ll not be proud of my youth and my beauty,
Since both of them wither and fade;
But gain a good name by well doing my duty:
This will scent like a Rose when I’m dead.


~ Isaac Watts

Arranging Roses

Where Would We Be Without Women?

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Pino Daeni

“Too much in our modern society encourages us to indulge the illusion of individual autonomy. This illusion is fostered by, among other things, modern “social contract” theories. A man can only assert something as foolish as an original “state of nature” where men come together to form themselves into a community if he forgets his own mother. But with all due respect to Hobbes, Locke, and Rousseau, we do not enter the world as fully formed, rational, self-interest maximizers.”

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Pino Daeni

“We are dependent rational animals who become who we are because people cared for us. At least one person cared for us enough to carry us in her womb for nine months and go through the painful labor of giving us birth. No one — not even God incarnate — came into this world without a mother. We are beings who draw our existence from others, and so we are called upon to learn to exist for others. Such is the life of a mother. And such should be our life, whether we are mothers or not.”

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Pino Daeni

“We live in a world that values and valorizes strength, capability, and domination. That world, valuing the things it values, has often enough dismissed women as weak and worthless. And yet, the absurdity of this view is obvious: Where would we be without women — and not just women, but women with the strength to allow themselves to be more vulnerable for nine months, and sometimes for years afterward, so that we can be strong? We would not exist without them.”

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Pino Daeni

“A society that resists the temptation to celebrate only strength and achievement, and that recognizes the need we have for those who work selflessly year after year to make possible so many of the things we take for granted — our life, our health, our ability to speak, our virtues, our knowledge of the faith — is helping to spread the leaven of Christ.”

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Pino Daeni

“Societies that preach the “state of nature” and think that we can depend upon some form of social contract often produce what they most fear: a society in which life is “solitary, poor, nasty, brutish, and short.” Begin with the wrong view of the human person, and you end up with an inhumane society of irrational self-interest maximizers and a dog-eat-dog world. A society that protects and values mothers, on the other hand, is sowing the seeds of charity. God help us if we forget mothers.

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Pino Daeni

Quotes taken from the article titled  Pictures of Two Women published at The Catholic Thing

Family and Science: We are not Autonomous Individuals

“The term “microchimerism” is derived from the fire-breathing Chimera of Greek mythology that was part serpent, part lion, and part goat. A chimera has come to be known as any creature that is a mixture of more than one being.” It looks fierce but that ferocity could be focused for either good or evil.

I came across this article today titled Autonomy and Interconnectedness at Catholic Education.org on the scientific field of the study of microchimerism in which mothers were found to have cells of their children running through their blood, their brains and other organs.  Children may also carry cells of their mothers and even older siblings that have crossed the placenta or through breast milk.   This discovery brought to my mind the fact that this seems to give deeper meaning to the virgin birth.  The Catholic Church has long taught that the Blessed Mother was born sinless, having been saved from original sin since her conception in her own mother’s womb.  The saving power of the cross was able to be applied to Mary because God, being outside time and seeing all from beginning to end, could foresee the accomplishment of our salvation in time, while being able to apply that merit to the Mother of Jesus at the time of her conception and saving her from the stain of original sin.  Jesus, being the perfect unity of fully human and fully divine, would have had his own cells cross the placenta to circulate in the body of his Mother and hers in His.  The question has to be asked, “Would these cells of the fully human/fully divine Savior been able to be tolerated in the normal human body, stained by original sin?”  Further, ” Would the human cells of the Blessed Mother been able to be received within the body of Christ if they were carrying the stain of original sin? Could that which contains sin be a part of that which was divine?”  It’s quite the food for thought for those who might doubt the Catholic doctrine on the Immaculate Conception of the Blessed Virgin Mary.  We also believe that Mary was taken body and soul into heaven.  She is already in her resurrected body, as is Christ, and as we all will be at the end of time.  Could the presence of fetal cells, fetal cells that were the perfect fusion of the humanity and divinity of the Son of Man, been a factor along with her sinlessness in Mary’s assumption?  Of course, this is all speculation but the questions do have merit in that the Catholic Church rather than shying away from science has always pioneered, supported and even participated in research and study.  The Catechism of the Catholic Church states

“Though faith is above reason, there can never be any real discrepancy between faith and reason. Since the same God who reveals mysteries and infuses faith has bestowed the light of reason on the human mind, God cannot deny himself, nor can truth ever contradict truth.  Consequently, methodical research in all branches of knowledge, provided it is carried out in a truly scientific manner and does not override moral laws, can never conflict with the faith, because the things of the world and the things of faith derive from the same God. The humble and persevering investigator of the secrets of nature is being led, as it were, by the hand of God in spite of himself, for it is God, the conserver of all things, who made them what they are.”

 

Despite the political correctness in this diagram, obviously “Parent 1” is mother and “Parent 2” is father.

This interconnectedness of cells among mothers, children and siblings (and possibly grandmothers) does seem to leave one person out of the equation, the father.  It seems that while a husband can carry his own mother’s cells, he doesn’t carry any cells within him of his children or his wife.  He is biochemically “other” than the other members of his nuclear family.  The Catechism of the Catholic Church speaks about God’s transcendence and immanence and how human fatherhood emphasizes God’s transcendence while motherhood emphasizes His immanence.

By calling God “Father”, the language of faith indicates two main things: that God is the first origin of everything and transcendent authority; and that he is at the same time goodness and loving care for all his children. God’s parental tenderness can also be expressed by the image of motherhood,62 which emphasizes God’s immanence, the intimacy between Creator and creature. The language of faith thus draws on the human experience of parents, who are in a way the first representatives of God for man. But this experience also tells us that human parents are fallible and can disfigure the face of fatherhood and motherhood. We ought therefore to recall that God transcends the human distinction between the sexes. He is neither man nor woman: he is God. He also transcends human fatherhood and motherhood, although he is their origin and standard:63 no one is father as God is Father.

The science of microchimerism seems to support this view in which the body itself speaks of these spiritual realities.  St. Pope John Paul II also speaks of this “otherness” of fatherhood.

In the light of  the “beginning,” the mother accepts and loves as a person the child she is carrying in her womb. This unique contact with the new human being developing within her gives rise to an attitude toward human beings—not only towards her own child but every human being—which profoundly marks the woman’s personality. It is commonly thought that women are more capable than men of paying attention to another person and that motherhood develops this predisposition even more. The man—even with his sharing in parenthood—always remains “outside” the process of pregnancy and the baby’s birth; in many ways he has to learn his own “fatherhood” from the mother…

The wonderful thing is that husbands/fathers as head deeply desire to share and connect with their wife and children despite this characteristic of being “other.”  They share that sacramental one-flesh union with their wives which results in his children receiving his DNA.  I often wonder if the generally stronger sex drive of the male is a driver that serves to foster his interest in connecting to his wife (and his children in and through her), due to this “otherness” that is not shared biochemically.

Wives/mothers, for their part, seek to make room for and foster the diverse familial relationships as the heart of the family.  They openly and actively welcome and receive the husband/father in cooperation with the sacramental union they share to truly unite the family as one-flesh.   They also often are the keepers and drivers of cultural traditions that serve as vehicles that bind families and communities together.

This, of course, is the ideal we are called to but the effects of original sin run deep and we often fall short.  It takes forgiveness and cooperation with grace to overcome these effects by striving always to attain holiness.

While much is not conclusive yet, this field of microchimerism is certainly one to watch in coming years as the implications, not only from a theological viewpoint but also from a physical viewpoint, comes more into focus.  In the meantime, we can continue to wonder in awe at the thoughts and actions of God that are already so far above our own.

Peter Paul Rubens (1577 – 1640) The Holy Family with St. Anne , 1630-35

 

Sexual Purity is a Virtue of the Soul That Sanctifies The Body

St. Maria Goretti on pilgrimage in the United States (Photo: Charlotte Observer)
St. Maria Goretti on pilgrimage in the United States (Photo: Charlotte Observer)

I came across a blog post at Zippy Catholic the other day that was a response to an ongoing debate in the comments section of another blog post at OnePeterFive about whether Saint Maria Goretti died to preserve her virginal purity when her attacker attempted to rape her or whether she died trying to prevent her attacker from committing mortal sin if he were to be successful in his attempt.

There were some commenters who were offended at the idea that she died preserving her purity or virginity.  They claim that it insinuates that rape victims who were not successful at warding off their rapist or who did not put up much of a fight due to being threatened with severe bodily harm or death, were damaged goods, rendered sexually impure or somehow sinful in not fighting to the death in preventing their rape.  There were other commenters defending that she did indeed die to preserve her purity.  There were some good points on both sides but sometimes that was lost in the lack of charity extended among the debaters due to speculation and assumptions about each other’s motives behind each of their arguments.  I think the offense comes in because it is assumed that by holding St. Maria Goretti up as an example of the value of purity, that it means victims of rape are obligated to fight to the death against their attacker lest they sin and ruin themselves.

When a woman is raped her sexual integrity is violated.  She does not will the rape to happen.  The bodily violation harms her physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Some of these wounds can be healed if she is made to understand that despite the harm done to her, it ultimately didn’t take away her worth or somehow make her dirty.  She has been sinned against and has had damage done to her but it doesn’t render her damaged goods.  She is not made impure or unchaste by what has been done to her.

St. Augustine taught this very clearly in The City of God, Chapter 18.  He wrote, “…purity is a virtue of the soul…what sane man can suppose that, if his body be seized and forcibly made use of to satisfy the lust of another, he thereby loses his purity? For if purity can be thus destroyed, then assuredly purity is no virtue of the soul; nor can it be numbered among those good things by which the life is made good.”  He goes on “I suppose no one is so foolish as to believe that, by this destruction of the integrity of one organ, the virgin has lost anything even of her bodily sanctity. And thus, so long as the soul keeps this firmness of purpose which sanctifies even the body, the violence done by another’s lust makes no impression on this bodily sanctity, which is preserved intact by one’s own persistent continence. ”

The commenters who are offended that she died to preserve her purity are right in that purity is not destroyed if a woman is raped.  Because it’s a virtue of the soul rather than the body, if a woman in her God-given freedom does not will to consent to intercourse but it is forced upon her, then she is still pure.

Another question comes to mind as well, “Is a virgin still a virgin, if she is raped against her will?”  Yes, she is, according to the Catholic Encyclopedia entry on Virginity.  The entry explains in the very first two sentences, “Morally, virginity signifies the reverence for bodily integrity which is suggested by a virtuous motive. Thus understood, it is common to both sexes, and may exist in a women even after bodily violation committed upon her against her will. ”

So what of Maria Goretti?  Because her virginity and purity would have remained, was it in vain that she chose to fight off her attacker to the death?  Absolutely not. Although her resistance to the death was not an obligation, it was an heroic act of love for God.  St. Maria Goretti exemplified heroic virtue, which goes beyond ordinary virtue, in her love for God above all things, even that of her very life.

Heroic virtue is a degree of perfection which, according to St. Thomas Aquinas,” belongs to the blessed in heaven or to a few of the most perfect in this life.”  Pope Benedict XIV wrote “In order to be heroic a Christian virtue must enable its owner to perform virtuous actions with uncommon promptitude, ease, and pleasure, from supernatural motives and without human reasoning, with self-abnegation and full control over his natural inclinations.”

The Catholic Encyclopedia explains that ” An heroic virtue, then, is a habit of good conduct that has become a second nature, a new motive power stronger than all corresponding inborn inclinations, capable of rendering easy a series of acts each of which, for the ordinary man, would be beset with very great, if not insurmountable, diffulties.”

We know from St. Maria Goretti’s story that the incident in which she was murdered was not her first encounter with Alessandro. The defense of virtue that was considered in her canonization was not just the incident that lead to her death but her ongoing defense of it over a period of time.  He had been hounding her and sexually harassing her for months and she had vehemently refused and did what she could to run away from him.  This “habit of good conduct” combined with her great love of God taught to her by her parents and strengthened by the power of the Rosary said by her family each evening, all gave her an unshakable foundation on which her will was able to cooperate with the gift of supernatural grace given to her in order that she be a witness to the value of sexual purity before God.

For those who were raped and unable to fend off their attacker or who were rendered helpless under fear of the threat of death, St. Maria’s story should not make them feel as though they have sinned, are impure or have even lost their virginity if they were virgins when it happened.  If anything, St. Maria’s story should bring to light the horrible violation that is the sin of rape that was committed against them and against God.   Her story acknowledges the great value of the victim’s sexual integrity and the freedom they should have had to refuse and have that refusal be respected.

For most of us, we will not be called to martyrdom nor will we reach the highest degree of perfection attainable while we are still in this life.  However, by these stories of the heroic virtues of the saints, we should find inspiration to every day be striving after holiness and working towards that perfection we hope to have in the future as one of the blessed in heaven.

Here is a link to one of the better in-depth accounts of the story of St. Maria Goretti

https://www.catholiccompany.com/getfed/st-maria-goretti-alessandro-serenelli/

 

A Woman Who Attended Both the Women’s and Pro-Life Marches Shares the “Downright Stunning” Differences.

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“Being physically at the marches, it is easy to recognize differences between the two. In fact, some of the differences were downright stunning. Take a look for yourself, perhaps you will agree.”  Antonia Okafor

See her article here in the Independent Journal Review

 

How about…..

…..instead of women needing to lock up their private parts to protect themselves from rape by muslim refugees, someone comes up with a contraption to lock up the private parts of muslim male refugees to keep them from potentially raping?  Perhaps as a condition of admittance? ….or better yet, just don’t let them in in the first place.  Let’s not make it necessary for women to wear the modern form of a chastity belt.

“AN ENTREPRENEUR from Germany has created trousers with the aim of protecting women from possible sex attacks while they are out jogging – and the first 150 were sold out immediately.

The trousers come with a lock for women’s intimate areas and an alarm, so would ensure the wearers were kept safe from any sex attacks.”

Read full article here

Take That, Satan!

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Then the LORD God said to the snake:
Because you have done this,
cursed are you
among all the animals, tame or wild;
On your belly you shall crawl,
and dust you shall eat
all the days of your life.
I will put enmity between you and the woman,
and between your offspring and hers;
They will strike at your head,
while you strike at their heel.

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Behold, you will conceive and give birth to a son, and you shall give Him the name Jesus.  He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David, and He will reign over the house of Jacob forever. His kingdom will never end!”…

“I am the Lord’s servant, Mary answered. “May it happen to me according to your word.”

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13th century image of Mary punching the devil found in medieval manuscript.  “Take that, Satan!”

 

Merry Xmas! is Not Taking Christ Out of Christmas.

There was a reminder on my husband’s facebook feed this morning to remember not to write or type Xmas but to go the extra mile and type out Christ because Xmas is an attempt to take Christ out of Christmas.  This is simply not true.

Xmas has been used as far back as the 1500’s and X has been a symbol meaning Christ as far back as a thousand years.  “The “X” comes from the Greek letter Chi, which is the first letter of the Greek word Χριστός, which in English is “Christ”. The “-mas” part is from the Latin-derived Old English word for Mass.  (Source)

X is just as valid a symbol of Christ as using the fish, which the early Christians used to avoid detection from persecutors and identify each other.

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“The Greek word for fish is “ixthus” or “icthus.” The Christian fish symbol that many Christians place on their cars is known as the “ixthus.” Five Greek letters form the word “ixthus,” and those letters inside the fish form an acrostic which is a message that Christians clearly identified with. The first letter represented the word Jesus. The second letter [x] represented the word Christ, the next two, God Son, and the final letter represented the word Savior. This adds up to “Jesus Christ is God’s Son, the Savior.”  (Source)

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An inscription in the Catacomb of St. Callixtus memorializes a Christian soldier

The Chi Rho (shown below) is another use of X as a symbol for Christ.

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This plaque [dated 400-800] is thought to be a cover for a niche in a columbarium, or communal tomb. The Christogram–the monogram for Christ’s name formed from the first two letters of his name in Greek (x and p), identifies the deceased as Christian. -(http://www.metmuseum.org/toah/works-of-art/1985.147/
It’s true that there is an attempt to take Christ out of Christmas and to turn Christmas into a winter holiday but the use of Xmas is not one of them. The letter X representing Christ belongs to our Christian heritage and to wipe it out would erase an important part of it.  It’s perfectly Christian (or should I write Xtian?) to write Xmas.  However, it’s not appropriate to say Ex-mas as the X is not our English x as we know it.  It’s a symbol for Christ.

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Do Women Set the Bar of Morality in Civilization?

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An often-repeated quote of Archbishop Fulton Sheen is

“To a great extent the level of any civilization is the level of its womanhood.  When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.”

I’ve seen various discussions (sources below) around the web regarding this quote.   Some say this is foolishness.  “Everyone knows men are the leaders and women are the followers so it’s men who determine the level of morality in civilization.”  Some take it as a compliment to women’s seemingly natural higher virtue, which if embraced and lived out by women, men will automatically become more virtuous as well.  Some are offended that it seems to imply that women are solely responsible for morality and everything bad in the world is because women are failing to hold things up by not taking seriously this responsibility.

First, the good Archbishop didn’t say women’s behavior is the end-all-be-all of civilization.  He said, the level of womanhood is the level of civilization “to a great extent.”  It can have a great influence but it’s not the only factor.  Second, the problem with all of these opinions about the quote is that most people have never bothered to read The World’s First Love which is the full text from which this quote is lifted.  If they read it, they would first see that the Archbishop is talking about the ideal of humanity that we should aspire to as Christians, while acknowledging that without Christ, we always fall short.   When he speaks of women in the text, he is not speaking in terms of what women are in terms of virtue but instead speaks of what the ideal of womanhood has to give the world.  They would also see that the book is about Mary, the Mother of God, who is the ideal in terms of what men and women should strive to be.  He writes,

God has to have two pictures of us: one is what we are, and the other is what we ought to be. He has the model, and He has the reality: the blueprint and the edifice, the score of the music and the way we play it. God has to have these two pictures because in each and every one of us there is some disproportion and want of conformity between the original plan and the way we have worked it out.  The image is blurred; the print is faded. For one thing, our [5] personality is not complete in time; we need a renewed body. Then, too, our sins diminish our personality; our evil acts daub the canvas the Master Hand designed. Like unhatched eggs, some of us refuse to be warmed by the Divine Love which is so necessary for incubation to a higher level. We are in constant need of repairs; our free acts do not coincide with the law of our being; we fall short of all God wants us to be. St. Paul tells us that we were predestined, before the foundations of the world were laid, to become the sons of God. But some of us will not fulfill that hope.

There is, actually, only one person in all humanity of whom God has one picture, and in whom there is a perfect conformity between what He wanted her to be and what she is, and that is His Own Mother.

When the Archbishop mentions “the level of womanhood” in his quote he is speaking not so much specifically about the behavior of women but more along the lines of how accepting society at large is of the ideal of womanhood in the person of Mary.    When virtues like humility, obedience, self-disinterested love, purity of heart which in turn leads to sexual purity, and love for Christ are valued by all in society and by a willingness to have Mary as our role model, then the level of civilization will be raised.  Womanhood encompasses all of these things because Mary, as The Woman, the new Eve, is our ideal for what God wants us to be.  Perfect conformity to Christ.  What does perfect conformity to Christ look like?

It’s having the humility of Christ, the obedience of Christ, the self-sacrificial love of Christ, the fiat to our crosses like Christ, the purity of heart which leads to purity of body like Christ.

In a sense, when women live up to the ideal of womanhood, men can be inspired to live up to that ideal because it’s the blueprint written on the hearts of all humanity for which we were created.  This inspiration shouldn’t be mistaken for it being the responsibility of women to  set the bar  of morality for men and therefore uphold the level of civilization. It simply means that in the heart of the ideal man resides a love of virtue and when he sees it displayed in the noble character of a woman striving to meet that ideal, he will be inspired to strive all the more to meet it as well.  However, when humanity has no love of virtue because they desire license over freedom within virtue’s bounds, then civilization will suffer and decay.   Those who live by virtue and noble character will be hated and despised.  It takes the turning of individual hearts to Christ who will then be able to see the beauty of Mary as the perfect model for humanity.  We can honor Mary as the ideal of womanhood and the role model for all because the ideal is based on an imitation of Christ who is the embodiment of love.

The bar for morality is not set by men or women but by Christ and meeting that bar is modeled by Mary.  Mary in her womanhood, is the ideal for us to strive for.   Mary perfectly conforms to Christ.  We, in imitation of her, are called to this conformity as well.  When the dignity of  true womanhood, the womanhood of Mary, is valued, upheld and honored in society, then civilization will flourish.

Sources

https://www.firstthings.com/blogs/firstthoughts/2013/07/towards-a-non-romantic-theology-of-women

https://donalgraeme.wordpress.com/2016/11/30/lowest-common-denominator/

 

 

 

 

I’m Stunned and Shocked at the Trump Victory….and Elated Because I am a Trump Voter

The day before the election I determined that I wasn’t going to watch the results because I was sure, given the polling, that Clinton would be elected.  Despite the fact that I didn’t think he was going to win, I wanted to vote Trump, not only because his policy positions were ones I could support, but also because I wanted to add my voice (small as it may be) to the rejection of the establishment on both sides of the aisle.

Of course when the evening of election day rolled around, curiosity got the better of me and I jumped online to follow the facebook/twitter feeds and running blog commentary of both well-known conservative voices (Laura Ingraham, Michelle Malkin, Kellyanne Conway, Conservative Treehouse) and those of ordinary people whose opinions I’ve come to respect through their online writing.  The first thing I came across was an announcement that “He’s winning Florida.  Most of the vote is in and the ones that aren’t in yet are from red counties.”   It was then that the glimmer of hope that I kept squashing down the last few weeks every time it crossed my mind that perhaps the polls are skewed and not actually a reflection of what’s going on, began to grow.  I thought “I’ll just see how he does in FL, OH and NC before I decide whether to call it a night or to stick it out longer.   Little did I know that I would be sticking it out until Hillary finally conceded and Trump gave his victory speech around 3 am.

The entire evening was a nail-biter with the agonizingly long wait for PA to be called for Trump and with that their 20 electoral votes that would put him solidly at 274 for the win.  Needless to say, I got to bed around 4am and powered through the day yesterday on 3 hrs sleep so I didn’t have the brain cells to give any commentary here.   Today, I have some thoughts and observations to share.

1. I voted for Trump for his policies.  Now I expect him to deliver.

2.  I’m deeply concerned about the fact that universities feel the need to offer “safe spaces” for students who are so traumatized over the results that they need professional help to process their feelings.  How are these emotionally stunted adults supposed to learn to deal with disappointments by treating them like preschoolers?  It’s cruel to coddle them like this.  Michael Bloomburg points out in the New York Post, “…one of the most dangerous places on a college campus is a safe space, because it creates the false impression that we can insulate ourselves from those who hold different views.”  Also, “How to study, cooperate, listen carefully, think critically and resolve conflicts through reason — those are the most important skills in the working world, and it’s why colleges have always exposed students to challenging and uncomfortable ideas.”

There are BIG parenting fails that need to be dealt with if our young people are reaching adulthood unprepared to deal with disappointment or uncomfortable feelings.  Offering play doh, crayons, bubbles, cookies and frolicking puppy videos to help them deal or feel safe keeps these adults at the emotional maturity of pre-schoolers.  Is it the acceptance and the over tolerance of  single moms, dead beat dads, helicopter parenting, and children being raised full-time in institutional settings from their infancy that is contributing to this?  I think, yes, yes, yes and yes.  The loss of our ability to reason before we react is concerning.

3. This isn’t all students though.  “In more than 20 years at UM-Flint, I am sure that these support services were never provided after previous elections, and certainly not in 2008 or 2012,” according to economics Professor Mark Perry. “And if the outcome of the election had been different, I am confident that either no emails would have been sent out to the campus community, or they would have been announcements for post-election campus celebrations, rather than an announcement for a campus ‘vigil.’” Source

Personally, if I was a liberal I would be embarrassed that this coddling had to be done every time one of my ideals failed to materialize.  I would wonder why my conservative counterparts don’t need a safe space when a liberal is elected and their conservative candidate faces defeat.  What was it about their parenting that made them better able to deal with their feelings instead of being crippled by them?  But then again, liberals aren’t know for their ability to think this deeply because they can’t get past their feelings in the first place.

4.  The ridiculous claims from some that this election was about sexism.  The election was only about gender for staunch feminists that voted for Hillary because they wanted the “highest and hardest glass ceiling” finally broken. People may have voted FOR her because “gender” but I doubt that any voted against her for that reason. The only sexism was on the part of feminists against “white male power.”

5.  The equally ridiculous claims from parents who didn’t know what or how they were going to tell their children about their new President or how their children were sobbing and terrified that he had been elected.  Who the hell instilled that fear other than their parents in the first place?  These are the children that are going to need college safe spaces.

6.  This excellent article that Trump voters were hidden in plain site.

Please add your commentary.  Agree or disagree freely.  I promise I can handle it.