Modest dress in women will ONLY be a help to the men who are ALREADY working on keeping their thoughts chaste. It’s a service of love for our brothers who want to see the women around them as sisters and not as objects of their uncontrolled lust.
Men who already walk around with the intent to indulge in looking at women’s figures to titilate their own lustful thoughts, will salivate just as much over the woman who is obviously dressed to attract sexual attention as they will a woman who has taken care to keep covered from about no more than mid-thigh to the top of her cleavage. As long as she is dressed prettily but not dowdy or in a tent that completely hides her form, she is prey to the weak man who doesn’t even try to master himself in this area. There’s not a darn thing she can do to keep him from having the thoughts he’s going to have. It’s his sin, not hers. It’s not on her to hide the femininity God gave her by depersonalizing herself in garb that hides her true form altogether.
Women don’t need to ask men what is modest. If we are in any way honest with ourselves and it’s our intention when we buy clothes and get dressed, to not explicitly try to gain sexual attention, then we will most likely pick out appropriate clothing. It’s ok to want to look pretty and well put together and that’s not immodest at all.
Modest in a way that reflects femininity and will be a help to men who have already decided to gain mastery over lustful thoughts…….
Modest to the point of depersonalization (complete denial of the female form) in an attempt to keep already unchaste men from thinking nasty thoughts. It is not necessary for women to go this far. Men have a responsibility to overcome their own sin and to master their sinful inclinations.
Women can choose to be a help to men in their quest to keep their thoughts chaste and we can choose to recognize and honor our own dignity in how we dress. Men can have a weakness in this area but ultimately it’s up to the man to decide to have dominion and mastery over himself. Until he desires this and attempts it, there’s not much individual women can do to help him without completely hiding the fact that we ARE women with a female form that God has given to us. We are not responsible to keep men from sinning to the point that our very being as women must be denied, covered up and formless. It’s not our job to completely take the responsibility of self-mastery from individual men. Each man is responsible for himself and for his own sin.